If you are, it looks like you may be luckier in love!
I saw an article today that covered a UC-Berkley study finding that both men and women who are easily embarrassed reported higher levels of monogamy, were considered more trustworthy and generous.
The study also found easily flustered people were seen as more cooperative and reliable team members and business partners. Tests repeatedly showed that “moderate embarrassment” signals a tendency to be “pro-social.”
People view these individuals as more relatable, and are more likely to want to affiliate with them.
After falling in love and marrying a guys who’s comfortable in his own skin and humble, I’ve come to dislike the people who are so darned impressed with themselves they have to be in the center of attention.
And I worry about gals who change their haircolor too often. I have no backing for this at all but it seems if you change hair color or style every few weeks you may be ready for a Brittney Spears-style meltdown.
Back to the shy stuff.
It makes sense… all of us are insecure in some way and the people who get flustered or blush tend to make us feel a little more secure and confident.
Just think about the scene from the movie Elf, when Buddy asks Jovie on a date (and who could forget, it’s only one of the best parts of the movie aside from his daring attempts to mount an escalator!):
“But… I really wanted to see you. And… and I think you’re beautiful, and I, um… I feel really warm when I am around you, and, um, my tongue swells up. So… Do you wanna go eat food?”
Of course she said yes! And just look what got her?! A cup of the World’s Best Coffee!
So take heart, my dear friends, and embrace the awkward guy or gal deep inside you. You’ll be more charming for it!
Do you consider yourself a shy, confident or daring romantic catch? Also, please take the time to read and rate my book, Badonkadonk: and other things that make you blush over at Authonomy.com!