You Married the Wrong One. For Real.

Showcase_01Two years ago I fell in love with a purse.


I can’t describe what made this purse so incredibly wonderful, but it was. It was everything I had ever wanted in a purse but the price tag… oh the price tag was right up there with getting a root canal and I was not going to pay it.


So I didn’t. It was the one that got away.


Funny thing, even though I made a choice to let that purse go, every time Iwalk into the purse section of a store I think about the purse that got away.


Yesterday I took a few minutes to walk through the purse section at a store and thought again about the purse. Come on! How many times do I need to worry about a purse?!


For some reason all this purse distraction made me think about the concept of “the one that got away.”


Whether it’s the big fish that broke the line, the old flame who captivates our fantasy, or the chance you had to invest in Apple before it was, well, Apple, we all have stories about the one that got away.


The most debilitating “one who got away” is when you believe you missed out on the true love of your life.


At some point most people will wake up in their marriage and think, “I’m so tired of seeing how different I am from them in X, Y, and Z. I married the wrong person.”


So what do you do then?


I have some news to impart that may surprise you.


You DID marry the wrong person.


“But, how can this be?! You, you who post things about how much you love your husband, how can you say you married the wrong person?!”


And you would be right. I do love my husband. But he’s still the wrong person. And I’m the wrong person for him.


We are full of awful traits. Not just the silly stuff like getting on each other’s nerves.


We are wrong. Just wrong.


That doesn’t mean we pack up camp and try a new campsite. In fact, just the opposite.


The key is our love for each other and for God helps us choose on a daily basis to become Right.


If you had married the one who got away I guarantee you would not have the problems you see in your current relationship.


Nope. Not those problems.


But you’d have other ones, problems you can’t even suspect right now because you aren’t living in close proximity to that special someone who occupies your thoughts on occasion.


Because we’re all the wrong person.


What do you think about this idea? I’d love to hear! Does it bring up more questions for you?


This post was originally published September 11, 2011 and is being recycled as part of the “I’ve Been Around” summer! Hope you enjoyed it and I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!


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8 thoughts on “You Married the Wrong One. For Real.

  • September 29, 2011 at 12:43 pm

    For me, the one that got away was a desk! A beautiful desk! Oh, how I wish I had that desk! But ah well, it is gone and I have to move on. I do have to say that I think of it any time I go into a thrift shop or antique store, so I totally understand what you’re saying!

  • September 29, 2011 at 9:49 pm

    A house. Mine was a house. I actually had the house for 4 years until we had to sell it. I absolutely loved that house! I still love that house! It would be hard to come across another house that could ever top that house!

    • October 4, 2011 at 11:00 pm

      I’m starting to feel that way about the house we just moved from. It was so beautiful, big, and the yard was a jungle. Wonderful…

  • September 30, 2011 at 6:47 pm

    I agree! It’s finding the one who will choose to be right… There will always be problems! Nicely stated.

    • October 4, 2011 at 10:59 pm

      And being willing to stay in the game until the timing is right for the one to come around. 🙂

  • October 25, 2011 at 2:34 pm

    I totally agree. I love what the apostle Paul said, “I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content,.” Perhaps that is the reason the divorce rate (and rate of other problems) in our society is so high. We have been conditioned to think we “deserve” something else, when the truth is…we just need to be thankful for where we are and what we have.


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